The best way out is always through our emotions and feelings.
Most of us as children, however, grew up in families where we have been taught to hide, repress, and suppress our feelings. We have little or no skills in expression and communication of our feelings. Many times the family environment tends to be an unsafe place to voice anything.
Western society seldom honors being vulnerable or the honest healthy expression of feeling.
The following describes briefly my journey from numbness to being willing to feel, express, and be more present with whatever feelings or sensations I experienced in my body.
I grew up with an alcoholic father whose unvoiced pain dominated my mother and four younger siblings. Shouting matches between my parents over my father’s drinking was interspersed with periods of silence where everyone retreated inwardly to their separate corner of the two story farm-house. An atmosphere of emotions of anger, rage, fear, and depression ruled.
I withdrew for safety, numbed all types of feelings, including suppressing anger, and became depressed without ever knowing it.
I avoided expressing any types of emotions, for emotions meant pain. In later life, friends commented on my “stone face.”
As a young teenager, my main motivation for years involved getting away from the family pain as soon as possible.
Only after my first intimate relationship in my early thirties did I recognize I needed to make some major inner changes. Neither of us had any emotional skills of knowing, feeling safe, or communicating our feelings. We experienced emotional hell for three years unaware of the unconsciousness agony buried deep within each of us.
I had no clue when my girlfriend asked how I felt. My fear of expression kept me numb. So I would say, I don’t know, which frustrated Angelique who wanted more emotional intimacy.
During my relationship and after it ended, I began to experience tension in my chest. At thirty-three, I feared a heart attack. I realized in needed to deal with my emotions.
For the next eight years, I became more familiar with my emotions, first while living in the Center for Feeling Therapy’s psychological community for two years in Los Angeles and then persevering in two intimate relationships.
In the relationships, I lived most of my life on a roller coaster of tremulous emotions. In addition, an undercurrent of quiet depression, fatigue, and emotional heaviness surrounded me. First, I tried therapy with psychiatrists and psychologists. Therapy helped in emotional opening, however, the pain continued.
Fortunately, this led me to study energy healing, which took me beyond my mind and psychology.
During my relationship and after it ended, I began to experience tension in my chest. At thirty-three, I feared a heart attack. I realized in needed to deal with my emotions.
For the next eight years, I became more familiar with my emotions, first while living in the Center for Feeling Therapy’s psychological community for two years in Los Angeles and then persevering in two intimate relationships.
In the relationships, I lived most of my life on a roller coaster of tremulous emotions. In addition, an undercurrent of quiet depression, fatigue, and emotional heaviness surrounded me. First, I tried therapy with psychiatrists and psychologists. Therapy helped in emotional opening, however, the pain continued.
Fortunately, this led me to study energy healing, which took me beyond my mind and psychology.
For over forty years, I have received assistance in emotional and energy healing. Professional energy healers using some form of healing Light or using a combination of energy and deep tissue massage assisted me. A majority of these healers could see or feel where I stored trapped energy and emotions in my body. In addition, I developed my own sense of feeling and knowing. Whenever I began to feel tension, low energy, emotionally out of sorts or irritated, I knew this indicated the surfacing of another layer of an emotional pattern.
In 1991, after years of personal healing and studying and practicing energy healing, I received the gift of bringing through an aspect of the Golden Light for speeding up the healing within others and myself, which I taught for four years in Los Angeles and Toronto. Since 1991, my release of limiting thought forms and emotional patterns of pain has accelerated each year.
In my personal and professional experience, the best way out is always through our emotions and feelings. This requires the willingness to practice becoming aware, staying present, and going through our emotional pain?
Subscribe to Explore Beyond the Usual™ by EmailIn 1991, after years of personal healing and studying and practicing energy healing, I received the gift of bringing through an aspect of the Golden Light for speeding up the healing within others and myself, which I taught for four years in Los Angeles and Toronto. Since 1991, my release of limiting thought forms and emotional patterns of pain has accelerated each year.
In my personal and professional experience, the best way out is always through our emotions and feelings. This requires the willingness to practice becoming aware, staying present, and going through our emotional pain?
Michael David Lawrience is the author of Emotional Health: The Secret from Drama, Trauma, and Pain. His book provides ways for improving emotional health, easing pain and stress, healing physical and emotional abuse, and spiritual awakening. He is a Holistic Health Practitioner, Self-Esteem Coach, Personal Growth Writer.Michael David Lawrience's website is http://www.emotionalhealthtips.com/
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