Resistance is the way that most of us, often unconsciously, create inertia, stop ourselves and even undermine ourselves. Procrastination is one of the most obvious ways we resist, but otherwise strategies include: being a perpetual student, planning but not executing, neglecting our own talent, keeping ourselves busy and distracted, having addictions, rationalising away ideas, keeping yourself isolated and unsupported and just keep talking yourself out of your ideas. We often don’t quite realise what we are doing. The first step in beating resistance is bringing the process into our conscious awareness and realising how resistance already operates in our life.
All resistance has its roots in fear, even though it can seem very sensible – what but are we really afraid of? We are obviously afraid of things like failure, looking stupid or even being ostracised, but I think there is a deeper level to resistance. We are afraid of our own brilliance and our own capacity for success. We are afraid to show up and really stand out and be as amazing as we are.
Resistance is a secondary force – a response rather than a primary force. All resistance, I believe, is your ego’s petty response to some beautiful and creative impulse from your own soul. It is the ego’s reaction to your heart’s desire to do something beautiful, generous and loving in this world. So what beautiful impulse within you are you squashing?
How do you beat your resistance? Make yourself accountable to others and get yourself support and encouragement and break your isolation. Do everything you can with what you have rather than believe you need to be or know more. Stop waiting to be ready, and take baby steps instead and you’ll grown in confidence and ability as you go. Finally and most importantly, choose to be of service to Life and make something greater than your fear and doubts.
I truly believe that when you learn to beat your resistance, you are more successful and fulfilled, and the world is blessed by your gifts and happiness. Far from being selfish, beating your resistance is an incredibly generous act. So, please beat your resistance so you can give us what you’ve got – we need you!
Nick Williams travels the world sharing a life-affirming - and profoundly spiritual – vision of work and entrepreneurship. A sought after speaker, best-selling author and broadcaster, Nick is on a mission to help people move beyond their fears, play-bigger in their lives, and transform their passions into profitable businesses. He is the author of six books including the best selling The Work We Were Born To Do and is co-founder of http://www.inspired-entrepreneur.com/.
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