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Thursday, March 12, 2015

Time - It Exists and Does Not Exist


I was tempted to title this Be Here Now: Be There Now (thank you Ram Das), but decided against it. This title refers to a pair of meditations in my book Opening the Heart: Meditations on How to Be. This pair is meditation images number 11 and meditation image number 12.






The meditation images are:






The expanded text for meditation image number 11 is:

“Time does not exist in the heart of the universe. Be there.

Science tells us that there is no literal heart of the universe; however, whenever you dive deeply enough into your inner self, you know the heart of all things. This heart is the all-encompassing love, knowledge and wisdom that we seek, and, when we arrive in that heart, time does not exist—all is flow, all is stopped—all at the same time. It is thin this ‘heart’ of the universe that we come to know the healing of that love, compassion and knowledge as well as our deepest soul existence. Find your way there.”

But as with all the meditation image pairs in Opening the Heart, there is the seeming duality of this with meditation image number 12. The expanded text is:

“Time exists on the human plane. Be here.

While it would be wonderful to exist in the bliss of the heart of all things at all times, each of us exists in a physical body. This body must eat, sleep, exercise, think, earn a living, and do all the things that human life calls us to do and be. Many believe that we have made an agreement as to what we are to learn and accomplish when we are born to this life. If we spend all our time in the heart of the universe, we fail to live fully in our physical bodies, as well as failing to accomplish what we are called to do her. Find your way here.”

It is interesting to me that life/existence is neither all nor nothing, neither all black nor all white, neither all nature nor all nurture. That two things that are seemingly the opposites, or as I sometimes say are dualities, and yet both can be true at the same time. The universe and life are fairly complex, yet simple at the same time if we choose to make our lives that way. It is existing within and navigating between the opposites or dualities that can create complexity from something that just is, well, just is.

One of the more interesting concepts to me is that, on the quantum level, there seems to be no time. Things in history can be happening then and now at the same time. Time, as such, is apparently non-linear. We can be, I have been told by a channeled being that I consult from time to time, living our current life and all our “past lives” at the same time. We can, apparently, reincarnate into a “time period” that we have already lived in. Sometimes I am in awe at the wacky, wonderfulness of the universe, and, well, sometimes, contemplating it seems to make my brain (or is it my mind?) hurt, so to speak. It becomes a tad overwhelming.

Yet, for each of us one day follows another, we grow up and change. We are not the baby we were at birth. Things happen once and not again. Things can recur. People come into our lives, they leave, and sometimes they come back into our lives. We do not breathe only once: we breathe continually. As some spiritual practitioners will tell you, there is only now, this moment, this breath. But, we all have a past we remember, we all have a future we think about.

Shaman Vitki, author of Metaphysics and Lore, Balance Your Life Path Numerology, and Runes and Lore as well as a shaman and clairvoyant, recently reviewed Opening the Heart. He used the phrase simple complexity to describe the book. I love this phrase. It describes the seeming dualities, the opposites of life quite well. Things just simply are. But they can be complex at the same time. Hence, simple complexity.

So, be here now. Take care of your body, mind and spirit in the midst of your daily life. Work, play, nurture yourself. Eat healthy food, breath in and out. Pay attention to your family and friends. Laugh. Exist in this time. Exist where you are. Fully be. That is my sense of what my angels and guides meant when they presented me with mediation number 12: “Time exists on the human plane. Be here.” It could, of course, have other meaning for you. (This is one of the joys of Opening the Heart: its layered, multiple meanings that arise for each person. I can only speak for myself.)

And, be there now—in the heart of the universe. Center yourself. Sit. Breathe. Move into your heart and from there into the heart of things. Slow time to non-existence, to nothingness. Hear what your heart has to tell you. It speaks for you, for the world, for the divine. You can be greatly blessed by this practice of contemplating: “Time does not exist in the heart of the universe. Be there.”

Live the simple complexity.

Kathryn Samuelson, as an intuitive, channels your angels and guides who are delighted to connect with you, and who are uniquely suited to answer your questions and address your concerns. She can receive information as to who your angels and guides are, as well as receiving information for you about family, health, job and career, and life path among other issues and concerns. In her life coaching practice, she welcomes all clients, but specializes in helping those who are undergoing a transition in their lives—whether it is a move, a job or career change, a loss of some type, or some other transition issue. She was certified as a life coach in 2007 by the University of New Hampshire. Kathryn also leads workshops based on the set of meditation images and text contained in the book called Opening the Heart: Meditations on How to Be, which is available as a paperback and as an e-book. She created this book with her friend, Linda Lewis. For more information: www.kathrynsamuelson.com, klsamuelsonATyahoo.com, or 781-799-733

Tuesday, February 24, 2015

Mindful Speech


I read an interesting blog post from the Velveteen Rabbi (Rabbi Barenblat) about mindful speech. The import of the post was that mindful speech can be refraining from saying/writing things that are hurtful or saying/writing speech in a way that is more restrained than a lot of the speech that occurs in our instantaneous, internet connected world. She has a link to an article about shaming and the damage that it does to those who are piled upon by the shaming and outrage community. She starts her post with the apparently new practice of some Christians of taking a fast from social media. She prefers the idea of moderating tone rather than a complete fast—thinking for a bit before posting something mean or snarky. She points out that some people also do this during Elul.

Rabbi Barneblat tries to ask: Is it true? Is it kind? Is it important? I believe that I have seen this or a very similar list of questions before. My book co-creator, Linda Lewis, and I describe Opening the Heart: Meditations on How to Be this way:

Opening the Heart provides a way for those seeking to find their heart's stories and bring them to light as well as grounding deeply into the self. As workshop participants have said, the stunning photographs and text of the images provide a path to:

• bring openness into your life and heart
• go on a journey unlike any other
• travel into your heart with ease
• build a new relationship with yourself

Opening the Heart can also help you to:

Be Mindful
Be Heartful
Be Compassionate
Be Kind”

The result of all this can be taking that second, deep breath before we speak or write something vitriolic, hurtful and devastating or just plain snarky. Yes, there is a place in life for seeking justice in relation to the situations that cause outrage, but I believe that this can be done without snarkiness, without putting someone’s life, home, family, and work in jeopardy. Can we at least ask ourselves whether we would be alright with someone doing the same to us?

I suppose it can be asked as the question “How do we want to be in relationship to ourselves, to others, to the world, and the divine?” This is another way that working with Opening the Heart helps us find our way, find how we want to be, find the story that lives within us, and find the story that we want to tell. And, in finding the story of how we wish to be, moving into that way, and telling that story in the world can lead us to compassion for ourselves (meditation number 54) and compassion for others (meditation image number 53). Having compassion means finding a way to bring about internal change and transformation. It means succinctly, at times, giving yourself or someone else a break. We tend (including me) to be too hard on ourselves, too judgmental about what we have said or done or not said or done. We can carry this tendency to be harsh and judgmental into our world view and our view of others. I do try to remind myself that I do not know what is going on in someone else’s life.

  The expanded text for meditation image number 53 says:

"Compassion for Others.

Part of the path of life is to learn to have compassion for others. Compassion helps us grow, to change and to heal. We cannot as easily bring these things to others without first learning compassion.

What does compassion feel like? Does it have a sound, a taste, a color? How do you sense it? What can you do to help it blossom out into the world?"


The expanded text for meditation image number 54 says:

"Compassion for yourself.

The wellspring of compassion is deep within ourselves. We create more and more compassion by giving it to ourselves, and then by giving it to others. Nurture compassion for yourself first because you cannot as easily give it to others if you do not give it yourself. After all, how will you recognize compassion for others if you do not recognize it for yourself?

In what ways can you nurture compassion for yourself? What can you do to know it when you “see it?”

This may seem a somewhat circuitous path to talking about mindful speech, but I believe one of the ways that mindful speech rises up out of us is through mindfulness and heartfulness, through compassion for ourselves and others. I think that Thomas Moore, author of Writing in the Sand and other books, psychologist and former priest, might say that it takes a shift in vision (Metanoia as he calls it in his book), sometimes a radical shift in vision for some of us.

One of the practical ways to practice mindful speech (and, frankly mindful action) is to practice the Golden Rule—acting towards others as you would like them to act towards you. I believe I read somewhere that almost all religions have a variant of the Golden Rule. It is easy—too easy some would say—to respond, especially anonymously, on the internet to something we read that outrages us, to make someone’s life miserable by publishing their private information on line (so that others can find them and go after them as well), to say the nasty things that we might bite our tongue not to say if we were standing in front of them. It can be too easy to yell at the store clerk about a policy they did not set, not take a breath and think that the other person we are dealing with may be having a terrible day. Or jump in with advice that is not want and has not been asked for.


As meditation image number 1 says: “Breathe deeply. Breathe slowly. You can breathe through anything.” Taking a moment to breathe just might keep us from saying the unmindful thing and cause hurt. Am I perfect in all of this? No, of course not. But I do try.








Kathryn Samuelson, as an intuitive, channels your angels and guides who are delighted to connect with you, and who are uniquely suited to answer your questions and address your concerns. She can receive information as to who your angels and guides are, as well as receiving information for you about family, health, job and career, and life path among other issues and concerns. In her life coaching practice, she welcomes all clients, but specializes in helping those who are undergoing a transition in their lives—whether it is a move, a job or career change, a loss of some type, or some other transition issue. She was certified as a life coach in 2007 by the University of New Hampshire. Kathryn also leads workshops based on the set of meditation images and text contained in the book called Opening the Heart: Meditations on How to Be, which is available as a paperback and as an e-book. She created this book with her friend, Linda Lewis. For more information: www.kathrynsamuelson.com, klsamuelsonATyahoo.com, or 781-799-733

Thursday, January 29, 2015

Change Your Language, Change Your Story



I realized after working with a client the other day how much I like helping clients change their language that they use about themselves and their lives as the language used changes the story that they tell themselves as in some sense the language someone uses to tell their story defines themselves. When a story changes, different actions become possible, new ways of being can arise.

I have said for a long time that language has meaning, but have meant more than that a word has a definition. The definition is the denotation, the strict or literal meaning of a word. But, there is also a connotation—the suggested or implied meaning—to the words, the language that we chose to describe ourselves, our circumstances, our story. We have all met people who we would describe as a victim. Yes, that person has had a terrible thing happen to them, but it is as if because of that terrible incident they have defined him or herself as a victim, as if that terrible thing were happening over and over again every day. The incident has become who the person is rather than being just a part of that person’s life story. That person, in some sense, becomes debilitated or almost debilitated. She or he has trouble functioning and suffers from the incident every day. Others seem to be able to create language that defines such an incident as something that has happened to them, but not as a definition of themselves.

Most of us, fortunately, do not suffer in this way; however, all of us, including me, at times use language about ourselves that can become a block to moving forward; that sets limits or boundaries on what we think we can accomplish; and that stands in the way of our being able to see possibilities. We will say that I cannot do this or that; that I am unlucky, or that I am not ever able to finish something, for example. We can see the potential new ways of being and acting when we dissolve those limitations and see that options for acting and ways of being in fact actually exist in our lives and in the world.

One of the things I asked this client to do was the exercise called I am of Value exercise contained in my book, Opening the Heart: Meditations on How to Be. This exercise is based on image number 51 contained in Part 1 of Opening the Heart. I asked her to do this exercise because her default language around disappointments was that she is unlucky, that she cannot do things correctly, and the like. It was also clear that she is undervaluing herself and not acknowledging to herself how bright and talented she is.

This is meditation image number 51:



The expanded text in Part 2 of Opening the Heart is:

“You are the Beloved.

The One has created you. The One is infinite love, and, therefore, you are the Beloved of the One. This is the main piece of knowledge in your heart. Accept it. Acknowledge it.

In what ways can you fully live with this knowledge? What can you do to wholly, accept, integrate, and acknowledge this fact?”

The exercise I asked my client to do has you meditate on this image to breathe deeply, go deeply into your heart and ask it what of you is of value about you. Then you list the things it tells you. The point of the exercise is to help you see yourself literally with language of the heart; to bring language that describes you differently than that you usually use into your life; and then to help you integrate that new language into your consciousness.

One of the points of this exercise is to move out of our egos and to move into that deepest self that resides in or, at least, communicates with us through our hearts. We, in modern Western culture, have been taught that mind, intelligence resides only in the brain. But this has not always been true across time. It is my understanding (and I could certainly misunderstand this) that the ancients Egyptians thought that intelligence or wisdom resides in the heart. (And, I have had experiences of wisdom for myself coming from places other than my brain/mind.)

I was quite amazed at what some of the things my heart told me when I did this exercise. The part of me that is an introvert that does not want to feel as if I am bragging is a bit shy about sharing the list that my heart gave me. However, as I do ask people to share what they receive, if they feel comfortable, during workshops, I will ask that part of me to understand about sharing with others. This is the list that my heart gave me that it values about me: laughter, intelligence, nurturing, sparkle, wisdom, depth of feeling, clear-sightedness, peace, flame, willingness to work, belief in miraculousness, stick-to-itiveness, and too many things it would take too long to count.

If you choose to do this exercise, I believe that one of the ways that you know that the list comes from your heart is when you receive words and phrases that you would not consciously choose to describe yourself. Then, please work to integrate these things into your conscious being, change your language about yourself and, thus change your story.

Kathryn Samuelson, as an intuitive, channels your angels and guides who are delighted to connect with you, and who are uniquely suited to answer your questions and address your concerns. She can receive information as to who your angels and guides are, as well as receiving information for you about family, health, job and career, and life path among other issues and concerns. In her life coaching practice, she welcomes all clients, but specializes in helping those who are undergoing a transition in their lives—whether it is a move, a job or career change, a loss of some type, or some other transition issue. She was certified as a life coach in 2007 by the University of New Hampshire. Kathryn also leads workshops based on the set of meditation images and text contained in the book called Opening the Heart: Meditations on How to Be, which is available as a paperback and as an e-book. She created this book with her friend, Linda Lewis.